...victims were “hurt” by a religious leader, but they were “destroyed” by the congregation. Operating from what she called a “normalcy bias,” congregants want to believe they are nice people, and their pastor is a nice person and it’s normal to be nice. Such an accusation is not nice, therefore not normal and the accuser must be the one in the wrong.
To read of ministerial colleagues involved in such deplorable and often criminal conduct is appalling but to read of victims being re-victimized by the reaction of the congregation is especially painful.
When cases of such abuse are made public, it is sad that many have this exact scenario: a victim hurt by the pastor but destroyed by the church.